Family Dysfunction / Relationships
Therapist & Counsellor
>> Integrated Life Counselling & Therapy in Private Practice
>> Kenilworth Clinic Outpatient Programme
Senior Counsellor & Programme Manager
>> Kenilworth Clinic Secondary Care - Duel Diagnosis
Group Therapist & Psych Ed Lecturer
>> Bloemendal Clinic (Dutch)
Crisis & Trauma Counsellor NGO
>> Safe House for Victims of Domestic Violence & Human Trafficking
Addictions Counsellor, Group Therapist & Psych Ed Lecturer
>> Rustenburg Clinic (Stellenbosch)
Recovery from Substance Abuse
Divorce Support / Guidance
Recovery from Trauma
Life is difficult.
For the greater part of my life these words were of no value to me - the first time I read them I put the book down. I was stubbornly holding onto my inherited views: Life is predetermined; external realities dictate my choices; the notion that I could struggle with aspects of my life implied weakness and a lack of gratitude. These sedimented, ingrained, fear driven beliefs would ultimately lead to prolonged unnecessary suffering and a life devoid of purpose, meaning, and joy.
Only once I was driven by sheer desperation did I make a different choice - a predicament I could have avoided by finding the courage and humility to ask for, and more crucially, accept help.
I have learnt that there is no shame or weakness in struggling with life's challenges - they are merely obstacles to be accepted as life's realities. When I was challenged to change myself, and to stop my futile attempts to re-arrange reality, my life changed remarkably.
I have since come to embrace my realisation that "the world MUST NOTHING. People MUST NOTHING". I alone am responsible for the conduct and outcome of my life. This was the day my life became authentic, filled with purpose, and my personal struggles were flooded with meaning. This was when a calm sense of curiosity about all my life encounters returned.
I have since lived my life according to the truth that my choices are my responsibility, that accepting and assuming this responsibility has released me from a life I had constructed for myself, a life built on fearfulness of change, and avoidance of challenging institutionalised dysfunction.
These are some of the principles I bring into the therapeutic process - a process informed by my life experiences and struggles, studies, reading, research, and extensive work as a counsellor and therapist in clinics, as well in private practice.
I love my work and I cherish the occupational privilege. I feel an immense amount of gratitude toward those who have, and continue to contribute to a meaningful life experience. More than anything I value the shared trust I experience with my clients during every therapeutic hour. We are fellow travellers.
Do you hold the belief that asking for help reflects personal weakness ....?
Asking for help requires courage.
It is the first step towards change, growth, and a more meaningful way of living..
No lasting, meaningful change can emerge from a therapeutic space in which honesty, love, care, trust and mutual respect is not the bedrock of the relationship between client and therapist. We become fellow travellers, sharing and exploring feelings of sadness, frustration, anger, guilt and other distressing emotions. Yet, importantly, the therapeutic hour is often filled with feelings of hope and relief, moments of humour, and the recognition of progress through change.
My therapeutic approach is to abandon stale, established technique.
The therapeutic process should be determined by the uniqueness and needs of each person seeking out a solution to his or her problems - not by rigid textbook diagnosis and prescribed treatment processes only. These academic approaches are often devoid of the crucial human element required for interpersonal connectedness.
PREVALENT STRUGGLES ...
Academic & Experience
B Comm (Ind Psych) (Stell)
South African Collage of Applied Psych.
Graduate Diploma in Counselling
APA International Affiliate
Developer of the Integrated Care
Youth at Risk
Your safe, therapeutic space.
Life Transition and Change